09.30 am – Woke up. Showered. Breakfasted.
10.30 am – Surfed around.
11.00 am – Updated “Best of July” in Facebook and Friendster.
11.30 am – The internet connection slowed down. MCB. Can’t even check mails nor go into famouschris.com
12.00 pm – Updated famouschris.
12.15 pm – zzzzzzZZZZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzz
01.30 pm – Lunched.
02.30 pm – Updated famouschris.
03.30 pm – Surfed around.
04.00 pm – Self improvement time!
- “No one listens to me anymore”
A man hears it as –
“I give you my attention but you don’t listen to me. You used to. You have become a very boring person to be with. I want something exciting and interesting and you are definitely not that person. You are disappointing, selfish and uncaring.”
But what she actually means is –
“I am afraid I am boring to you. I am afraid you are no longer interested in me. I seem to be very sensitive today. Would you give me some special attention? I would love it. I’ve had a hard day and feel as though no one wants to hear what I have to say.”
Men tend to be more factual and will take words literally. A typical response would be –
“That’s not true. I am listening to you what.”
So before a man can learn women language, he has to be aware that there is such a language.
- When a man faces a problem or becomes stressed out he will become silent. And he expects to be left alone to deal with it. Women’s golden rules is to never abandon a friend when she is upset. But it does not apply to men. It’s different. Men and women speak different languages.
What he is actually saying when he is silent is :
“I don’t know what to say yet, I am thinking about it. Just let me be. I can resolve this within myself if you don’t interrupt my process by asking more questions or offering suggestions.”
“I am not responding to you because I do not care about you and I am ignoring you. What you have said is not important therefore I am not responding.”
Many women, including those in my past relationships imagined silence as the worst. This is due to the face that women are silent only for 2 reasons.
Either what’s about to come out of the mouth is gonna hurt or
she doesn’t wants to have nothing to do with that person.
The above are excerpts of Chapter 5 of John Gray’s Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.
I learned that in a relationship, when a woman is upset, she not only uses generalities, but is also looking for support.
When a woman says :
05.00 pm – Updated famouschris.
06.00 pm – Super Gym.
08.00 pm – Dinnered at Mandarin Cafe.
10.30 pm – Tiger Arms!
The first 3 glasses.
01.30 am – Washed me feet. Took off me contacts. Brushed me teeth.
02.00 am – zzzzzZZZZZZZZZzzzzzz